In class today we had discussed why the term lifestyle is so offensive when referring to gay individuals and their sexuality. For so long, I too had often found myself labeling homosexuality as a lifestyle than what it really was—a natural sexual preference—not a choice, but preference that one is born with. I think part of the reason why this is so is because, like in both the Christian and the Indian community, there is a strong draw to believe that homosexuality is some sort of “fad” that because popular culture is condoning it more people are exploring these possibilities. I recall the numerous times that my homophobic father would get frustrated with the media, accusing them of the exponential growth in homosexuality, or so he claims. But he, and other who share his views, fail to understand and accept is the fact that homosexuality is neither a choice nor influenced by any formal outlet. If anything, the media simply gave permission to be more open and truthful to one’s self, the media simply encouraged individuals to become expressive of their identities. This logic explains too why we are seeing a “growth in homosexuality” because as permission has been given to become more expressive of one’s self, we are seeing more people wanting to show who they are to the world and not be shy to hide it. My question becomes, however, when did society begin to permit the media to be the authoritarian of what is acceptable and what is not? Should sexuality or any other definitions of an individual be defined or made permissible by the media? Who then dictates what is proper? Religion? Politicians? Who?