Yesterdays discussion on gender and sexuality made me remember all the things swirling around about the lead singer from the band Tokio Hotel. As anyone can see he is very androgynous, so the assumption everyone made about him was that he was gay or bi. In the past 6 years he has not officially dated anyone and his private life is kept pretty hidden, but he has said personally that he is straight. However more recently he's undergone a make over and "fits" the "traditional" description of masculinity. Perhaps he did it because he just wanted to change it up, or maybe he was tried of having to listen to the media talk about it. So I'm just curious what other people's take on something like this is. Does our media environment really have that much control over us that it can force us to fit its own "definitions"? even today, when something like gender and sexuality aren't so black and white?